I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately — why so many people suggest or advise us to control our emotions? And why so many guides out there share tactics meant to help us achieve that?

First, should we even talk about controlling our emotions?

Emotions are such a vital part in a woman’s life. They are the means through which we communicate with the world and through which the world communicates with us. If we shut down our emotions what else should we put in their place?Ain’t feelings what makes us human after all? Ain’t feelings the channel through which we create the most beautiful memories and generate the most meaningful relationships?

And second, why should we think about controlling our emotions, before giving us a change to understand them?

Getting the true meaning of your emotions and following their message is the key to unlocking your womanhood.

I know, sometimes feelings can be overwhelming. And you might be tired of them — your very own and equally dealing with other’s emotions.

But, you see, the key to not feeling overburdened by emotions is to make them your special friends and do what it takes to understand them and integrate them in your life, as smooth and tender as possible.

Today, I’m gonna share with you 4 tried and true ways to achieve that.

1. Ask yourself — what does the emotion that overwhelms you looks like?

Or if there’s and emotional blockage involved, what does it look like? When does it become active? How do you know there’s a blockage? Emotional blockages occur after many years of denying or hiding our emotions. Don’t be afraid, let your feelings surface and observe them.

2. Develop a climate of non-judgement

Simply put it — accept yourself unconditionally! Learning how to decipher what you feel or how to start feeling again can happen only when you are totally safe from any harming judgement. Why? Because, as it is, the fear of emotional intensity is what generates the blockage. Embrace your emotions and express them with people who understand you. Give yourself permission to feel and this will trigger important messages​​​​​!

3. Express yourself

This is the baseline of any solid emotional healing process — learning how to express what you feel so that you come out with the experience that you have been seen, acknowledged and respected. Start by writing in your diary on a daily basis. Uncensored and unmodified, allow your thoughts to guide you to your emotions and let the “waters” move through you.

4. Create you own ritual

This is the surprising part — as I’m pretty sure you did not read or hear that much about how rituals can actually help you understand and deal with overwhelming emotions or emotional blockages.

Well, identifying some tiny but effective practices that you can use whenever emotions get in the driver’s seat is a quick, effective, and also beautiful solution to gain more clarity about the real message your emotions try to send.

The moment your emotions start bubbling up, take a break and breathe consciously for a couple of minutes. Breathe deeply from the womb or the heart and allow the emotions to move through you. Laugh, cry, scream, do whatever you fell like doing and hold yourself in a sweet embrace.

Allow yourself to calm down and integrate — soon, insights will pop up and you would have ridden your emotional storm. 🙂

Stay close, my dear, there’s so much more I want to share with you! Things that I put a lot of love and passion into and that I happily entrust you so you can share with others too!

All my love,

p.s. And if you want to learn more about rituals, reach out here, here, here and here. There’s a treasure hiding in plain sight! 😉